Gästebereich » Heiraten ohne Wissen der Familie?

Salam aleikum
der gleiche Bruder hat auch schonmal im englischsprachigen Web eine aehnliche Anfrage mit mehr Hintergruenden gestellt.
Nur damit ihr noch mehr Hintergruende kennt.
Aber dort braucht man so lange bis man eine Antwort bekommt

Hier die Anfrage:
(und hier ein englisch/deutsches Woerterbuch:
http://www.dict.cc/ oder http://www.linguee.de/ )

I feel my fiancee's family is insincere, they stall me,
give me permanent new conditions and appointments for marriage. They already gave me a ok for easier conditions.
they broke their word! I am just not able to figure them out?
I asked my fiancée
to agree for
an islamic marriage without knowledge of her family(after
marriage we wont tell her family just to feel relexed and that we know that we are married
and that if it's coming out that they have no choice than accepting a low payed job)
she said that wont be possible without the agreement of her family/oldest brother/waly may be her oldest brother is her waly
does a divorcee need the agreement of her family?
should I search a Sheikh to speak to them in wisdom?
(without ayat and ahadith)
her oldest brother pray the morning prayer after sunrise!
DO YOU HAVE A BETTER IDEA????

Wassalam